He still cosleeps with her. Raging hormones can’t be confined to rooms. Wrong. Hi! This is habit and routine Dianne Lake was just 14 years old when she first met Charles Manson. I’m so tired of hearing parents say that their kid will decide, I’ve even heard this about potty training, after I told the mom we put my 6month old on a baby toilet once a day she scolded me. The Bible says marriage is honerable and the bed undefined… it is for married husbands and wives. I wake up scared every morning, afraid my son won’t be alive. There are so many messed up kids today. Does anyone know the resources on this article? Close Child Behavior Community 14.3k Members mom sleeping with 15 yr old son MSS37. Why not according to child’s comfort and needs make this happen? There has been tines where he has taken off all his clothes to change, or just got out of the shower, and didn’t even ask his daughter to leave the room So he can change. What all of you are doing is ruining your children for life. Hi Belinda. You should not “snuggle” your child at that age while sleeping…that is the martial bed not the community sleeping grounds. If they are developmental in nature as it pertains to older children, then something needs to be done. Pls don’t act as if you know anything. Most people would agree that allowing a 10 or 11-year-old child to sleep with a parent of the opposite sex is wrong or somehow taboo in today’s world. Toddlers. Already talked about your family drama so pushing it on a kid. 7months pregnant!! I think there is something wrong with this situation! My son wakes up happy. But of course the earlier you set your boundaries the better off you will be. Why not you ask? And obviously, a 10 year old in the bed is quite a hindrance to martial intimacy. Everything you described is inappropriate to the max. This issue has almost ruined our marriage in the past and still might one day. Stop coddling their development, and act like a mature and intelligent person and understand that this indulgence needs to stop sooner or later. Not literally 'freaks out' but when she trys to go to sleep at around 11 p.m she will come down 30 minutes later crying and asking if she can sleep in my bed, I say no, cause' she has to get used to sleeping alone eventually. So if parent are comfortable with being naked then kids will also follow suit and think positive about it. Communities > Child Behavior > 9year old sleeping with parents. But there is no need to judge other people parenting as everyone does it differently. I feel bad for the kids they should learn to sleep on there own. Great Question thx For It…. Sadly he wasnt always able to be at home when I was little. Even when her other siblings and cousins spend the night she gets very anxious and cries to go home . Parent claiming “I just love our snuggle time” need to wake up to reality. My fiance has a 10 year old daughter she still sleeps with ever since you brought home from the hospital. However, he does ask to sleep with me at home sometimes. By the way, we have a great, loving family. That’s all he’s known since birth. I am all for co sleeping. I was FORCED to share a bedroom AND the bed with my mother for many years after my parents divorced. Hmmm… She’s got a point there, I guess. She’s fifteen. He has my 13 year old nephew that recently moved in and sleeps on the bottom bunk, so at least he has company in his room now. I think he knows it’s strange to him after a few minutes and be gets up and goes to his own bed. I have nephew who slept in his parents bed for years. Aren’t you afraid they’ll live with you forever because they know no other way? I wish I knew her parents well enough to have this conversation. I am in a relationship with a man that still does the co sleep and shower thing. Learn how your comment data is processed. It doesn’t ruin the dynamic for she and I at all .-12 year old girl (P.S. A. She has already lost custody of her older son for indulging and not disciplining him and is devastated. Showing love to your kids doesn’t mean putting your sex life and marriage at risk no! Or maybe, you enjoy the extra snuggle time with your little one. They just turned 6. So, though there are clearly some differences, you are not completely alone. Its so weird to me that I will no longer allow my children to be over with them alone without my wife or I. I have a 7 year old son who I have been trying to get out of my bed for 4 years now. Truth is, he seems more than happy when he sleeps with me In one bed but I am very uncomfortable and could never sleep. Then tells her to come into bed 30 mins later when I have gone into the other room. He and his almost 12yr old share a bed and a room. Until I was about 12 I would often sleep over with a friend of his when he was away for work. And since there are no laws surrounding an age when children shouldn’t sleep in a parent’s bed, this becomes grey area. Does the gender of the child matter? He’s even gone in there to sleep, but then ten minutes later he’s back in our bed. I know one day he will be in his own room, so for now we’ll just enjoy these moments we have with him, even if it means we will have to cling to the edge of the bed. Try out the Opposite. Around 24% believed that co sleeping shouldn’t occur to begin with. There also comes a time in a marriage where co-sleeping will greatly, if not gravely affect the marital relationship. But when? Your spot on Rita. And 9/10 I tell him I love him but he needs to sleep in his room. He is doting on the daughter – she is the “golden child” – and putting everything bad on the son – he is the “scapegoat.” The way this dynamic works, your kids will end up being scapegoated as well – as you saw when your daughter tried to get in bed with you because she was not feeling good and he wasn’t having it. Does anyone else feel this is the case? Other wise any other room is safe. She is used to sleeping with someone and doesn’t feel that it is fair that you get to sleep with someone while she sleeps alone. A. And before you say, yes my son is now seeing a therapist. Why are they chosing? My 10-year-old granddaughter is still sleeping with her parents in their bed. So we co slept often so I could be aware of his status. I’m not sure which came first: the dependency or the co-sleeping. Wow…the reason I found this thread was because I wanted to know if my 10 yr old son was the only kid in the world that still wants to sleep with his Mom! A year ago I married her father and came to find out that she sleeps with dad. That’s all it was ofcourse. Made me have homosexual tenancies. I am lonely. Hell if anything, if I were given the chance to do it again, not only would I; but i would have held him even tighter. Or, on the flipside, how does a co-sleeper go to a friend’s for a sleepover? What about a father spending the night at his 19 year old daughters house that lives the next city over? It is to the point that I am about to leave because of the arguing. You shouldn’t pass judgment on others just because it’s different from what you did. Even more common, whether parents admit it or not is that allowing your children to sleep with you can be downright easier than fighting with a fussy toddler at bedtime night after night after night. If this dad is your boyfriend…..or husband you will not be dating much longer if you think or continue your thinking. You are partly to be blamed for letting this happen. My life isn’t confusing, your way of thinking is. My son never slept in his crib, was nursed, and now dreads sleeping by himself. If that’s weird then my family would probably be weirder. I wish my boyfriend will stop letting his soon to be 9yr old sleep with him…I refuse to so I sleep on the couch while being 7months pregnant. From the outside, it might seem creepy for mother and son, or father and daughter or even daughter and mother and father and son to be sharing a bed into the pre-teen or teenage years. Some of you are thinking: “Well, that wouldn’t work for me, but to each their own.” And then there’s a small group of you are silently nodding along, happy that someone is finally talking about how freaking normal this is. Last yesr3i bought a bed w trundle and he and i fall asleep in his room. Your job is to set boundaries. We’d never kick our son out of the bed. She will find pout when she is bailing him out of jail etc. But I really don’t know what to do, should I say something? He's able to sleep in his own bed. He has 50/50 custody of his children, so it’s not like he doesn’t get to see them. I still always tried to sleep in bed with him, and occasionally he would me. Her parents were hippies who moved in the same circles as the charismatic cult leader, who would go … I know for a fact this is depriving the mother sleep which is NOT good at all, My x brother in law still sleeps with his daughter…….. sh is 25. Even if we’re watching t.v., depending on the day, you might find all three of us piled up beside each other. I used to call him daddy when it’s just us, but I had to try hard not to though when other people are around because of the kind of looks I get. Just does what he wants when he wants and no respect for authority. One would assume she pumps them out on a plethora of topics for the joy of antidotal writing. Schooles have been closed for over 2 months and he loves the heck out of it. Learn something: Co-sleeping is the norm for most of the world, and was in “Western” countries until quite recently. I don’t mind him being in our bed, but I also do not think it is good for him or is helping matters between her and him. We let children make their own decisions because we’re not narcissistic control freaks who lusts over the idea of creating a “mini-me”. My kids have proved all of your statements wrong. i said once the boy reaches puberty (which he did 2 years ago) the sleeping together should have stopped, if not sooner. Mom & dad are not married or living together. Perhaps Boy Scouts may help as they have extremely well protected camping trips. We’ve made it so he can’t close his door by accident so if he needs us he’ll get up and come to us. Parent’s talk.) Like enjoy it now because time flies and soon they will be grown. 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